MY VALENTINE CARD

Some days the pain gets unbearable and we need to distance ourselves from it. We need to meet with someone who has a different perspective, who can help us untangle the mess that we made. Someone who truly listens and truly cares.

Psychological violence leaves deep scratches in the surface of every relationship. If you have endured it in your life, you will most probably pass it onto others. When two such entities meet, it creates a conundrum entanglement of hurt and forgiveness. The relationship is fueled by this immense intensity of pain and withdrawal.

There are situations where it is fairly easy to find the offender, but in situations like that the unconscious can easily blind us into enduring these schemes. It is incredibly difficult to break this cycle as it’s a self-fueling never-ending story. It takes a lot of work, care, understanding and empathy to build a union of lovers who are above that. It takes harsh boundaries and strict rules to follow by each side. It takes patience and time and then again more patience and time. It can work out, but it does not have to.

I do not want to make any more promises and vows. We may fall apart, I may leave, and you may leave. Only thing I can say is that as long as I see the clarity of the choice of us, I will fight. As long as I believe we can be a team and build ourselves a beautiful life together I will.